Western education 2013

Monday, December 15, 2008

.... bye bye money...

... today I was paying bills and today I discovered that my son has a gift for gab - his gift this year is as a result of his gab!!  The phone charges accumulated to just over $300.  His plan is part of our plan and so when he ate up his minutes and ate up our minutes then text messaged past the 750 mark (he has only been alloted 500 minutes) then the bill just started going up almost exponentially..... I tucked the bills into an envelope and wrote 'Merry Christmas' on the front.  We always said to him that we would only pay for the monthly minimum rate and that he would have to come up with the rest of the money himself and now that he no longer delivers papers it only made sense to not give him the money he wanted in lieu of presents to get himself what he wanted.  After all, Mom's don't know what kids really want.... but now I do and so I have paid his bill with his Christmas money because it is what he really did want - to talk and text during classes of which he is now failing!!  I am a firm believer that sometimes it has to get you where it hurts the most in order to make an impact!!

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

When Teens makes mistakes

Often you wonder whether anything you say sinks in and when it doesn't you feel horribly depressed.  Where did I go wrong? ..... like today.....

I often know that my teen tries to manipulate a situation to suit his needs but today his needs became more important than the safety and comfort of his latest female friend.  It started out with a dinner request and I said yes, although I was not here, his father entertained the young lady at the table while my 14 year old behaved in a disrespectful manner to his family while helping himself first.  He then went on to turn down a request we had to take the young lady home because he said her mother would pick her up at the mall at 8 p.m.  I called him on his cell phone at that time only to be told that he was heading home...... when we tried to call back his phone was off.  I had to find him and bring him home not realizing that the girl he was with was the same one who came to dinner but he did not introduce her, but waved her off as he followed me out the door to go home.  Angry and disappointment come to mind but more so a deep seated dread that maybe I didn't teach him well and maybe others do not hold any importance...... he is sitting at the kitchen table with phone in hand now trying to call her to see if she got home O.K because the realization that she is not home yet at almost 9:30 is just too much for him to digest...... that conscience will be his saving grace when he finally grows up to become a man.  Right now, I am trying to get him to do the right thing without losing my cool...